Hi Beaut! We’ve all been there…or maybe you haven’t. Here are 10 tips to keep in mind on the big day. Enjoy, XO!
Let’s keep it real, first dates are:
– Things we should all experience
They’re a mix of emotions and preparing for one is enough stress as it is! I recently went on my first REAL non-relationship date a few weeks ago (which was so weird by the way) and I will admit I was a little terrified. What if we didn’t have things to talk about, the vibe wasn’t there, or he was only good for texting…we all know those guys LOL. I had seen this guy on about four different occasions prior, all by accident, before he asked me out on a date. I don’t typically do this but figured, what the heck…why not!? As I was frantically pacing across my apartment I immediately thought “This is a blog worthy moment. Why aren’t there any good tips out there!?” So thirty minutes before my date arrived to pick me up, I grabbed a pen and paper and wrote down 10 tips I wish I had or someone told me. I read them to myself as I finished getting ready and now they’re yours 😉 Here ya go, I hope this can be a great resource for y’all! Happy dating.
ONE: WASH UP.
Seems like common sense right? Well…we all know that common sense isn’t so common. I don’t care if you showered the night before or that morning. SHOWER AGAIN BEFORE THE DATE. Why? Because any extra smells that latched on to your body through out the day will get washed off and you’ll be extraaaaa fresh and clean clean before date time which HUGE.
TWO: NATURAL FACE (OPTIONAL/PERSONAL PREF).
This is optional. I am not saying you have to wear makeup, however if you decided to then try to keep it minimal and simple. Trust me, we all love a beat face but I personally think little to none or a natural makeup look is the way to go. Then, if there is a second date, that’s when you slay your face on him! So he can see and be appreciative of both looks. Best thing is, he can’t accuse you of trickery later 😉
THREE: DRESS TO IMPRESS…YOUR DAMN SELF.
Don’t squeeze into shoes that are two sizes too small. Don’t wear something showing off you boobs that is extremely uncomfortable. DRESS FOR YOU. Wear what makes you feel good and that you feel sexy in. I’m telling you, nothing is more captivating than woman who is confident! Ask any man (see how I said man and not “boy”) and that is what they look for. If what you feel comfortable in something that is “so last season” who gives a giant F? WEAR IT.
FOUR: HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY.
Dates are typically filled with all sorts of questions and/or scenarios. With that being said, make sure you remain honest the entire time. There is no point in lying about your favorite sports team, what your future goals are, or in “would you rather” situations! Build on honesty, even if you and this guy don’t get anywhere, YOU can take the pride in knowing that you remained yourself.
FIVE: STAY TRUE TO YOU.
This and number four relate. With being honest, you gotta remain true to yourself. Don’t act as someone else or do weird things just to impress someone. It’s WAY more work than just being yourself.
SIX: BE A LADY, ALWAYS.
You want him to be gentleman, don’t you? Well it can’t just be one-sided girlfriend. Be on your best behavior, use your manners, be respectful, and most importantly say PLEASE AND THANK YOU.
SEVEN: RIDES AND LOCATION.
Yes, it is cute and romantic to be picked up by your date. But if you are meeting for the first time, it is 100% okay to want to drive yourself or have a friend take you. Also, location…your first date should be in a PUBLIC AND WELL-FILLED place. Never just go to someone’s house, a dark area, sketchy location, etc. Be smart.
EIGHT: THE “FIND FRIENDS” APP.
In today’s world, we are fully aware that it’s full of a bunch of crazies. God forbid your date kidnaps you, but you can never be too safe. I am not sure whether to thank or hate my mom for getting me hooked on Criminal Minds. For Apple users, the app “FIND FRIENDS” should be pre-downloaded and somewhere on own of your home-screens. It lets you send your location to other Apple users. You get to choose how long they [people you send your location to] get to know your location. For a certain time, the rest of the night, or for forever. Whoever you send it to can go on the app through their phone and track you. It’s for safety and can be turned off whenever! If you’re an Android user, I am not sure if there is something like this, however you can just inform close friends or family your wareabouts – time, place, the date, etc.
NINE: NO SALADS, PLEASE.
Oh my goodness…y’all. Freaking eat on your date (if he takes you out to dinner) don’t settle for a grilled chicken caesar salad because you’re tryna be cute. GIRL, STARVING AIN’T CUTE. If you want to eat a steak with shrimp and load mashed potatoes (me) then order it and enjoy that sh#t. If he’s taking you out to dinner, the purpose of the outing is, you guessed it, to eat. So get something you enjoy!
*disclaimer: grilled chicken caesar salads are bomb af and I have no hate towards them lol. They are also a great go-to if everything on the menu sucks.
Phones on a date are an absolute no no. Keep them off or keep them on silent. It’s rude and prevents you from staying in the moment with the person in front of you. I say keep ya cellies put away, don’t even pull it out to snap your meal (I’ll explain why later in a post discussing why it’s smart to hide your man, trust me it’s a good one) This really allows you to communicate with your date, which to me is really fun because you’re getting to strip down the layers of a complete stranger who could in turn be the love of life! How crazy would that be!?
Last thing: If you had a good time, let it be known during and after the date. No need to keep that sheltered, let your date know you are enjoying them!
I hope you all enjoyed and can take something away from this post. Happy dating Beauts!
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