Hi Hi Pretty Ladies!
First off I want to say that this post is NOT:
– to shame or discredit any natural haired girls/women out there.
– to say that wearing weave is the only or “best” way to go.
– to say that your hair underneath doesn’t matter, because it does.
– saying that you need weave to be “pretty” or “more attractive” in the eyes of society.
Your hair does not define who you are – your personality, character, talents, and what you bring to the table does. LOVE your hair and experiment how you please. Weaved up, braided down, natural curls, twist outs, relaxed straight…whatever you chose, love it and rock it 100%.
Whether you’re natural, perm/relaxed, or transitioning WEAVES can be worn by anyone! When I say anyone, I mean white, Black, Hispanic, and more. Now, I’ll be speaking from the perceptive and experience of wearing a weave through the eyes/mind of a black woman because well, I am one. The main reason most girls, myself included, where weave is because it is an amazing protective style.
protective style: are hairstyles that protect the natural(real) hairs from any type of damage such as heat, chemical, environment, etc. It is a way to allow the hair to grow, strengthen, and get healthier without things preventing the process.
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So with weave, for the most part, a good majority (if not all) of your hair is braided down. For Black women, our hair tends to grow the best + fastest when it is braided. That’s why you see a ton of beautiful black girls wearing different of styles of braids when they’re younger.
I want to thank you all for sending in your questions to me via Twitter (@micahxniciole) I’m really excited to answer them because I LOVE me some weave y’all! So without further ado, let’s get to answering your questions!
What’s the difference between store bought weave and “real” weave?
I’ve never purchased store bought hair so I can’t speak on it too much. However, store bought hair tends to be way cheaper than virgin (real) hair (weave). Store bought hair also tends to be lesser quality meaning the hair is synthetic – can’t be curled, straighten, colored, etc. – it doesn’t last nearly as long either (tangles/mattes easier…like it doesn’t stay in place when the wind blows, when you lay down, etc.) I’ve heard that it’s good for last minute or one time events because it’s quick and won’t need to be in your head for a while. But there may be good and virgin hair at a beauty supply store, I don’t know personally. Just going off what I’ve seen and heard. With virgin hair which is mostly purchased online (no aliexpress for me lol) is real hair cut straight from the donor (person’s head) and shipped to you. It hasn’t been chemically processed in anyway before coming to you. Tangling and shedding is minimal – if you purchase quality hair – can be worn in multiple installs, lasts anywhere from one to two years with proper care, and has more flow to it. This hair can be colored, dyed, straighten, curled, and beyond! Basically anything you can do to your real hair, you can do to virgin hair.
What is a bundle or pack? How do you know the difference?
They basically are the same thing…they’re just used depending on your place of purchase, if that makes sense. For example, when a girl says “a pack of hair” typically she is referring to getting hair from the beauty supply store. When a girl says, “I need some new bundles” majority of the time she is talking about real virgin hair, not store bought.
Why are the prices so spread out? How do you know who to buy from?
Prices are so spread out due to a number of reasons,
– the quality of hair
– the origin and/or texture of hair
– the amount of bundles you purchase
– the length of hair you get (longer the length, higher the price)
Now just because hair is sold at a low price doesn’t always mean it’s bad quality, but from experience, higher priced hair does beat out lower priced (for me). I know that not everyone can buy super expensive hair but I’m just speaking from what I know and do.
I like the store hair b/c I get to see it and touch it. Isn’t online scary?
It really is about preference and the reason behind getting the hair. Most online hair companies have instagrams so you can see what their hair looks like in the bundle, before and after it’s washed, when it’s installed, etc. Most of the time they tag the girls wearing the hair, so I follow them and ask for their opinions. For me, I want GOOD hair that last long and is worth the investment. If I drop $350-$420 on some bundles I want hair that is sent from the Gods! Jokes aside, you want hair that can be altered how you please and doesn’t cause you problems. I wear my hair for at least three installs (a single install lasts anywhere from 2-4 months) so I’m getting my moneys worth. I’ve seen girls with store bought hair and they look good in it and it works for them….but it’s just not my style. Picking a company is like giving birth to a child man! It’s a process and preference. It can also be really risky as well because when ordering online you may get people who scam you and/or post fake + stolen pictures of clients/hair etc.
If you guys want a separate post on how to find the perfect online hair company for you, let me know and I’ll be more than happy to whip that up for y’all.
How long can I have a weave in my head?
Anywhere from 2 months to 4 months is what people recommend. But it also depends on you…how fast your hair grows, how secure the foundation (braid pattern) your stylist did for you is, the quality of the sewin, and quality of the hair you have in. I have a friend who can’t have her weave in for more than 2 months because her hair just grows so quickly. My mom kept hers in for 5 and 1/2 months and nobody could tell. For me, I typically keep my installs in for 3 and 1/2 months because I’ll buy more hair or will want to change my parting.
What is the difference between the textures likes Indian, Brazilian, Malaysian la la la?
Ahhhh, these are known as origins not textures. Texture is referring to the hair’s pattern (straight, curly, loose wave, kinky, etc.) But the difference is where and who the hair comes from. Also each origin of hair has it’s own uniqueness to it – they all come with different pros and cons. For example, Indian hair is known for it’s thickness and low luster but tends to frizz up a lot. Malaysian is known to be very shiny and silky which can come off as fake looking but it holds curls nicely. My personal favorite hair texture is Eurasian because it’s so thick, has low to medium luster, blends flawlessly with my hair, holds curls forever and a day, very smooth and soft, contains soooo much body, and never tangles. With each origin, their uniqueness allows certain types to blend better with your hair type.
How do you know which one is best for your hair?
There are charts and websites(blogs) that go more in depth about this. Depending on your hair type and thickness will dictate what is best for you. Peruvian is said to be best for African-American woman, however Brazilian blends well with about any race. Also there are a ton of videos on YouTube showing how to blend your weave!
How do you wash your actual hair and makes sure it doesn’t suffer any damage while you’re wearing a weave?
You don’t wash your real hair while it’s in the weave. That’s why when you do take your hair down, you make sure you get a deep and good wash. For Black women our hair produces natural oils and flourish while braided so no damage really occurs. The only damage that can happen is if your stylist braids too loose or has the tracks too tight on your edges. But when installed properly, no damage should happen only magical things!
What if your scalp itches? How do you even get to it?
You just scratch it lol. I just use my finger and get in there because your hair is just right underneath. Now if your hair is super thick then the braids will be close together and you may not be able to get in there for a couple of days. But I’ve never had an issue with scratching and never had to do the infamous, “weave patting”. Though some stylist apply a net which goes on top of the braids. This is so they can install the weave wherever but the net is honeycomb patterned so you’ll so be able to scratch your scalp.
What is the usual wash routine? Does it depend on the texture of the hair?
It’s said to co-wash (just washing with water and conditioner) once a week. But not everyone does that. And to shampoo every 2 to 3 weeks because shampooing strips and drys out the hair. I co-wash every week and 1/2. I typically wear straight hair but when I had my really big, curly hair I washed in once a week but daily I was spraying it with a spray bottle and adding in curling cream.
What do you do with your weave over night?
Depends. Sometimes I wrap it and sometimes I do nothing. My hair is so bomb that I can “risk” doing that without having to worry if my hair will be messed up in the morning. But with straight hair, if it’s long enough, I’ll wrap it up in my scarf. With my curly hair I put it up in a pineapple and tied a scarf around my edges. With body wave or any type of wave, I did either one or two braids and put a cap on top of my hair to keep my leave out looking bomb.
How can you tell an okay stylist from a real professional?
A lot of people who install weaves aren’t professional or even licensed for real. Crazy right? People take classes or are self-taught. So I don’t think that title really matters if their skill level is good. Look at their instagram or website for pictures. Normally they post before and after pictures of installs and then you can judge for yourself if that is someone you want touching your head and to give your money to. Word of mouth is huge as well, ask people who’ve gone to the stylist you’re interested in. Ask about time, how tight/hard they braid, customer service, attention to detail, skill, etc.
Leave out vs. no leave out?
Leave out is exactly as it sounds. It’s all the hair left out that is not braided down and that is not your weave. Depending on how healthy your hair is and the length (can it cover the tracks) really decides if you have leave out. Also if you don’t want your hair to be out at all or don’t want to deal with blending then most go with zero leave out by using a closure or full sewin. Most do leave out because it looks more realistic and natural or they’re scared of closures looking too fake but if your stylist is cold then closures can look just as natural.
How important is a closure?
I’m not too sure how to answer this…closures aren’t needed so I guess they aren’t important? It really just depends on what you’re going for. I’ve had both leave out and a closure and enjoyed them both.
What are your tips for a girl who is getting weave/sewin for the first time?
1. Don’t go all out and break the bank because you don’t even know if you’ll like it
2. I recommend getting Brazilian body or loose wave for your first hair choice because it blends well for all hair types and is very versatile and low maintenance. You can wash it and keep it in it’s natural pattern…plus it can hold a good curl and you can get it bone straight as well.
3. Ask ask ask the stylist you are interest in all the questions you want to know. Don’t be afraid to do so.
4. Try out new things, colors, cuts, styles – that’s one of my favorite thing about wearing weave. I get to do all these different looks without doing a thing to my REAL hair.
5. Weave isn’t for everyone and it’s okay if you try it out and are not a fan!
Well, there you have it. I want to thank you again for sending in questions and I hope I’ve helped everyone who asked. If you want to know more, like products to use for co-washing, my favorite hair (weave) products, tips on how to find your perfect online hair company, or things of that nature let me know! Just comment below, email, or mention me on Twitter @micahxnicole. I’d love to hear from you.
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